Wednesday, April 29, 2009


We arrived in Hanoi this afternoon after leaving our hotel in Ho Chi Minh City early at 8:30 this morning. Chianna loves riding in the car and was excited to walk through the airport. The plane was fine until Myke put her seatbelt on and then "IT" began. Thuy ended up sitting in her seat with Chianna on her lap the whole time and she was fine for the whole trip. She liked looking out the window and she ate some of the lunch they served on the plane. As we were getting off the plane, Myke picked her up but she wanted to walk, so she started to cry and I am not sure who was more upset, Chianna or Myke. That started the spiral. She fell asleep in the taxi on the way to our hotel, and as soon as we arrived, woke up cranky and started crying. She did not like the hotel room and stood in the corner.

She was really mad at Myke and only wanted to come to me or Thuy. A big difference from the days before when she wanted Myke more than me. Its ok, we know its all part of the process.

So Thuy and I took her with us to the immigration dept while Myke stayed in the room to try to nap. We applied for her passport and wrote a letter asking them to expedite the passport. We walked back to the hotel and got CHianna's passport photo taken on the way. Chianna walked a good protion of the way and Thuy & I alternated carrying her. She loves to walk and I believe that in the few days here she has gotten better at it.

As soon as we got back to the hotel and I got in the elevator with her and said bye to Thuy, she started crying. I brought her to the room where she crying, screamed and threw a complete tantrum for almost 2 hours! We tried everything and could not console our poor girl. And her cry. . . . is as awful as her laugh is wonderful. Its painful to hear.

Finally she responded to wanting to have her diaper changed, and I layed her on the bed to change her, she calmed down and we ran a bath for her. She got in the bath and within minutes was playing with me and daddy again, giggling away.

She loves the bath and did not want to come out even though all the hot water was gone. When the tub started leaking all over the bathroom floor, we finally coaxed her out of the tub, she was shivering cold but didn't care! Then we put pjs on and daddy played with her for about an hour. She loves coloring and in 3 days has shown an improvement already. I palyed with her for a little while and then gave her a bottle while she watched Sesame Street on the DVD player we brought. She loves watching TV and just phases in on it. She eventually fell asleep around 8 or 8:30pm and as I write this now its 8:20am and she is still asleep!

It was one hell of a day for us and I am glad that it is over. We know that this is just the beginning of the bumps in the road as she gets used to us and goes through all these changes. It must be so scary for her. We just keep telling her that we love her and that it is going to be alright. We are not going anywhere and we will always be here for her.

Our plane to Hanoi

Chianna sitting on Thuy's lap

The view of Hanoi from above over Chianna's shoulder.

The last calm moment of the day. Sleeping in the taxi. She really took an interest in daddy's wallet - UH OH!! Look out!!

Also in the airport, there was a panda statue with a clear bowl of money in it (might have been for a contest or something?) and she went right over to each one we passed staring and pointing at the money inside - oh boy! Are we in trouble!!??!!


Candy said...

Yes, there will be bumps in the road, but we all hate them when they're happening. It's so hard when you try so many things and nothing works. They just have to get over it themselves.

It will get better and you will forget all about those moments.

Enjoy every day!

Life with JJ, Starr and Spice said...

We are so proud of you and love you all.

Mary said...

Hang in really does get better! Soon there will be less tears and a whole lot more of those precious laughs. :o)

MeiLi's Adoption Journey said...

So sorry to hear that Chianna is having a hard time, But as you know it's part of the process and hopefully she will not grieve too much longer. Wishing the best, on the remainder of your journey.

Momma2Many said...

Shari & Myke ~ You are doing GREAT! From our experience the in-country transition time always seems to be the worst. You just keep loving her up and these episodes will soon fade away. Try to enjoy your time in Hanoi ~ we LOVED it there! Are you at the <3 ?
{{HUGS}} and prayers ~R

Tammie said...

Just keep doing what you're doing. As hard as it is right now, Chianna will settle down. Eventually. It's always hard as parents to see our children go through these times, but as you know, this is normal for our children.

Heidy, Joey and baby Madison said...

It will get better. The beginning is the hardest part but as the days go by you'll see her love grow and will make everything else dissapeared. Madison had her moments too, one minute she was so happy with me and the next with daddy...It took her longer to get used to daddy but now she's so daddy's little girl. Just give her time to get there, it'll be so worth it!